Am I really in this to help or do I just want something from them?

Tell me about your situation?

What are the desired outcomes you want?

Why do you want these?

What happens if you don’t get them?

What does that matter?

What stands in your way to getting them?

If you’re in the habit of thinking about your next statement or how to position yourself asking questions might take some practice.

Try it out. Try it on friends, family members, colleagues.

What are the results?